You write! But who reads?


DISCLAIMER – With this I have made little amendments to my ‘About THE Muser‘ page too.

Maybe this is why we read, and why in moments of darkness we return to books: to find words for what we already know
― Alberto Manguel

You usually do not find something which you do not know. It was always there in your sub-conscious mind or it either is a reminder or a new perspective of someone.

Many of you must have noticed me liking or most of the times, commenting on your posts within last three weeks. Yes, I have been doing this, going through your writings, for last three weeks, spending one to two hours daily, excluding the weekends. This is because I opened my ‘Following’ list and went onto every blog to go through their recent posts, mostly top one or two. Many of you might have spotted me doing so, for some of you it might have been just any other comment, and few of you might have not even noticed them yet as you haven’t responded to them. I did all this just to ensure all of you that I am still following you i.e. reading you which is this platform is all about and most of all assuring myself that I am REALLY following these people.

Actually there definitely is some issue with WordPress feed-page. I spend almost an hour reading your posts daily but this ‘Readers’ page hardly shows me your latest posts. The only posts I get to see, that too repeatedly, are of ‘Millionaire’s Digest’. Though I like this blog but this is NOT the ONLY blog I like. There are many other writings which I miss just because my feed-page doesn’t show them. I don’t know what it does by keeping your writings by itself. Do you have any idea?

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Well, after a lot of procrastination, I could finally pull the lazy myself up from my bed and get onto check each blog, individually. And as I expected I really did miss many of the amazing writings. But another thing that I did, which was not pre-planned, I clicked that ‘Following’ button to stop following few blogs too. Most of the times because they were not active for last three to five months or more. Other times the reason of doing so was the kind of writings, the writings I would not read in general. Not because they are not good, but only because my keen interest is in ‘Writing’ related blogs. So, I stopped following many ‘only‘ photography or culinary or fashion or ‘only’ poetry blogs too (as I am more of a story person). When I was a newbie I must have followed these blogs hoping for the same gesture back from them. This kind of thinking flows naturally to a newbie but as we grow old in this blogosphere we realize that we better not make this a number-game.

No offence to any photography, sketching, lifestyle, fashion blogs and the blogs created for other reasons, but over here I am being particular about the blogs where ‘writing’ is the main focus, especially stories. Not all but most of us write for our audience. Right? We try to put our best foot forward in order to not to disappoint anyone. Don’t we?

But what makes me wonder is, does anybody REALLY read it?

I can’t write without a reader. It’s precisely like a kiss—you can’t do it alone
― John Cheever

John was wise to realize this and wiser to spread his wisdom.

Most of the times what we all do is, come across a new blog, explore that blog, and if it comes out as per our expectations, we follow it; this marks the end of the story, which actually should be the start.
Oh! How pretty is the look of this blog.
Oh! How innovative is this story that she has written.
Oh! How witty is his ‘About’ page.
And here goes the click on that fancy FOLLOW button. But to be honest, how many of us RE-visit the blog that had that huge impact on us? In fact do we even remember that we ever encountered such blog? I don’t know for you but yes, it has happened with me.reading_and_writersAll I want to say is Follow what you really want to read in future, and try to not to get involved in a number-game over here, as for many of us the comments that you provide, that LIKE button you click on, really matter.

Make that Follow button on a blog the start, not the end.

To all those who write for others, remember – someone else is doing the same for you.
Don’t confine yourself up to writing only. Do read, do learn, do teach and you will grow gradually.

I know some of you would read this post and understand my concern, some won’t be able to because this ‘feed-page’ problem is general I guess, and many won’t even read it because just like me (though not now) they also followed me just for the sake of following.

I don’t want to sound bumptious but please don’t follow me if you are not going to read me. For me, each and every follower of mine matters.

Readers are not sheep, and not every pen tempts them
― Vladimir Nabokov

So yes, I will understand.

Don’t you feel reading and writing go hand-in-hand? Feel free to share your views. 🙂

P.S. – There are those also who have followed me but due to some reasons I couldn’t check out their blog yet. But I will definitely get through this task too, very soon.

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82 thoughts on “You write! But who reads?

  1. Yayyyy! Hii Aditi. ☺ Such a thoughtful post this is. Everyone writes so that people will read them, but do we do the same? Even I learnt this lesson a few months back and I have really improved in the ‘reading’ section now. Doesn’t matter if we follow only 10 people, we should honestly read their posts and give our views. ☺

    And btw, I am luckyyy, you came over and read my blog posts, this makes me soo happy. Thankyou Aditi. And you didn’t unfollow me, huh, that makes me superhappy! 😻 And I’ll follow you if I really read and enjoy your posts. I hope that is okay with you. 😹 Thankyou Aditi. ☺☺

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    1. Hi Chandni. Thank you for visiting my place.
      I am glad you too hold the same ideology, of being a REAL follower. You have a pretty good blog. 🙂
      Of course it is okay to not follow me (I liked your honesty). As I mentioned in the last – Follow me if you read me. 🙂
      Though it would be my hard luck if I cannot make you follow me. 😉 Do tell me if you don’t feel like following me (really tell me), I probably would try to lure you with the freshly baked temptations at my place. 😉
      Good day! 🙂

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  2. What an honest post. You revealed ir all even clearly, and quite frankly we all bloggers should do exactly what you’ve pointed out. I’ve too been guilty of mit gong through an entire post or liking just fir the heck of it but I’ve stopped that now. Resultantly my comments have dropped in numbers but I make sure that whatever I write, matters. Else there’s no point in giving someone false hope.

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    1. Thank you so much Pradita.
      We all have been through this phase, and it’s okay too unless we get comfortable with it. As we grow old on this platform, we should understand the essence and importance of writing and reading.
      I felt very strongly that I should spill all this out, as this figurative thinking on WordPress is intoxicating everyone. I wish, through my words, I saved few.

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  3. Coincidently..a right time to read this post as i have already opened the list of bloggers i wished to read & reading thier posts after long…
    Your blog is certainly like “friendship writeups wala blog” with beautiful tales.Keep writing 👌👌

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    1. Yes, there definitely are such people.
      And as you mentioned, reading is one of the ingredients towards good writing. We cannot rely simply on reading for improvement. There are a lot of other factors influencing and directing one’s writings.
      Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 🙂

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  4. To be a good writer first try to be a good reader, that is something I believe. And I too don’t found most of my fellow bloggers post not in readers, that is awful. But still I manage to read and visit them personally. A must read post. Thanks for sharing with us!

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    1. I have started doing the same. I choose to visit different blogs, randomly, every day. This way even I miss some new post of someone, I can cover it up the next time I visit his/her place.
      I should be thankful that you read it and found it worth your time. 🙂

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  5. You took such a good initiative by reading posts of Other people. I would like to appreciate your effort. I happen to cross your blog through the comments posted by you on somebody’s post. And it urged me to check out your blog as well. And i couldn’t resist till i read till the last word.
    it is true.
    we should read also. And appreciate if we like.
    because it matters to people and to us also. 🙂
    good effort
    keep blogging 😦

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    1. Thank you so much for coming by my blog. I am really grateful to you for that.
      Additional to that you liked it too, that’s like a complimentary gift. ❤
      Yes, we should definitely read others’ writings and share our thoughts as much as possible. As that is the reason we all joined this platform, to share our thoughts and get to know about others’ perspectives too. The more we share, the more we learn.
      Thanks again for reading it. I hope you will re-visit this space, again. 🙂

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  6. HI Aditi, What a refreshing post. I’ve been recently getting to a stage of selectively unfollowing as well as honing what I follow. And, yes, its important to do the work of reading, not just press the like button. Thank you for the recent follow and I’ll be dropping in to see what’s going on in the world of you too

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  7. I know right sometimes it feels like I am pushing my words in a void and feel is there anybody even reading it? I agree as fellow bloggers we should not just randomly like feeds on the reader. We should inspire each other and be a part of the journey. I love what you write and you have one regular reader here 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much Sudeepta! ❤ 🙂
      I hope my writings never disappoint you and you never feel like not reading them. 😉
      As a blogger, it definitely is important to not write, but read others too.

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  8. i know what you mean………sometimes, you put a lot of effort into commenting, but do not even receive a proper thank you……
    but its not always possible to comment on every single post too…………i try to keep up with the busy schedule…..go through my follower list and try to catch up on a few everyday……..

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  9. Aditi what a thoughtful and excellent post this is! Sad to say its difficult for me to get through the reader as well so Im sure I have lost track of some blogs I really do want to keep up with…Im going to go through my list that I follow in my admin page and start clicking away! XO!! ❤ Thank you for the post and the inspiration!

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    1. No worries Mauren. I am glad you could resonate with it.
      It’s just that I realized we sometimes get too much into our writing that we forget to read. So I just wanted to remind all of us of it. And yes of course the trend on WordPress.
      Thanks again for reading Maureen. 🙂 ❤

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  10. The blogging world seems to have changed recently, it seems too mercenary now, people liking and/or following but then either little response to my comments or just linking their blog into generic comments on my site. Like you I follow who I like and I don;t mind if they don’t follow me but when it comes to it, the quality writers will always stand out and I always try and follow those,

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    1. First of all I would like to thank you for spending your time on my blog. It’s is really a great feeling when somebody likes your words, as a writer is nothing but his/her words.
      And yes even I don’t mind if someone I follow doesn’t follow me back. It’s all about the kind of content we are interested in reading. And the blog that provides me that content, written in his/her unique way, I don’t hesitate to press that ‘Follow’ button. 🙂

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  11. I’ve come across your blog post and I liked it because it made sense to me. Posting articles is not just for the sake of having something to write, but to have something to share with the “readers” that follow our blogs. Great post!

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    1. Thank you so much.😊
      You added a very important point which can be directly linked with the quote I used at the end. I so much agreed with that quote.
      You cannot expect your write-up to be appreciated by your readers or even read by them if it lacks the quality. Writing is not enough. Writing good enough is enough.
      I’m glad you liked it. Thanks again.☺

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  12. Yep. I believe to develop a good base of followers you also have to be active with other blogs.

    On a regular basis I will go through my list of blogs that I follow and remove/add as I evaluate how often they post (too much is as bad as too little), what they post and does it resonate with me.

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    1. Absolutely!
      This platform is about reading and writing. We should not confuse it with ‘ONLY’ writing.
      I am glad you do filter you list on regular basis, on the basis of same parameters that I consider. It’s a habit which I have recently inculcated in me.
      Thank you sharing your thoughts. 🙂

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  13. Great post, I try to only follow people whose sites I feel ill definitely revisit in the future. Some people follow others because they’re caught up in the numbers game, I get that, but that “Follow” button really should mean a lot more to us!

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  14. Ha…i don’t understand why you find it difficult to catch the posts via readers….maybe it’s like your reader is crowded with that ‘digest posts’. Infact i had that issue, then i created a list where in which i add the blog names which i want to read strictly… Try that option…

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  15. You know what, initially I started with just posting my articles but gradually realised that interactions with fellow bloggers made it more interesting for me. It feels good to participate in others’ blog and also when they do the same with you.
    I always try to read your work and whoever I follow otherwise what’s the point of following. I wanted to say I really like your writing, they make me think! Kudos and keep it up. Happy connecting to you here.
    And yeah WordPress is too darn complicated :/

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    1. Yes girl. There’s no point of following one if you’re not going to read one’s writings. That interaction part, that is good too.
      Thank you so much girl for reading my work. Kind of yours is the reason I stay motivated to write more.😘😊
      Wordpress complications are tough to deal with.

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    1. I’m glad you read this post of mine even when its length is something you avoid reading.
      But the thing is few write-ups warrant a length to impart the actual message they have to, and this article demanded it. It had not one but few of the things to convey.
      And writing short write-ups is really not my cup of tea but I am working on it.
      Thanks for the suggestion.

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  16. Only if people could rise above numbers and let writing be the creative and satisfying process it is supposed to be!
    There are many blogs I follow and unfollow for reasons similar to you. When I started out I explored a lot more, I accept that, but I didn’t expect followers in return. The gesture is humbling though.
    Being read and appreciated is any writer’s dream, and I loved the way you put your thoughts here. I’m sure this will find resonance with many people. I did a post on the same lines couple of days ago ‘Dear Marathon ‘liker’. Check it out if you can.

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    1. I’m glad you could relate to it.
      This platform is much more than number of followers, and the earlier one realizes it the better.
      Of course I would go through your post soon.😊
      And Thank you so much for reading this.☺

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  17. Hi, first of all I’m very grateful for your comments over the past weeks. I’m glad to be a beneficiary of your kindness here. This is an excellent, thought-provoking post and I totally agree with your views. I’m not sure how many blogs one can practically follow and still be an active reader and contributor to each. For me, I have only ever followed once I have gone through the scope of their blog (not just one post), and periodically peruse the list to de-clutter some as necessary. I also like to get to know the blogger behind their blog by at least knowing their names (may I please ask yours?😜). There is so much salvation in connecting with your followers rather than simply “dump” your thoughts. Thanks for this, the sincerity of the post has made my day🙂

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    1. First of all thank you so very much for your time and comment.😘😃
      I really like the way you choose to follow others, and definitely there cannot be more than some finite number of people one can, sincerely, follow.
      Here is the answer to your question – It’s ‘Aditi’.😉😊
      And your comment made my day.☺

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  18. Yes, I agree reading and writing go hand in hand. When someone starts following me out of the blue, without having liked or commented on my posts, I wonder why? Are they just following me so I’ll follow them? I’d rather have 10 genuine followers who read and like my posts, than 1000 followers who don’t. Interesting post, thanks. 😊

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  19. I have read each and every word of your write …most these things linger in my mind too …It’s not necessary that the readers may read out posts but may not like them …on the contrary sometimes I get 10 likes on ten posts in less than 10 seconds this seems to be somewhat wierd I really wonder whether they read it completely….bieng a student my first priority is studies. ..about fashion and photography I am not inclined to it …however I focus mostly on the blogs of writing and poetry …I prefer poetry first …So nice of you highlight mostly all the points in your write which were in my mind too…have a nice day Aditi

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    1. I’m glad to have readers like you.😊
      Yes, it is indeed wierd to have numerous likes just in a minute or few if ones write up is long.
      So you are more of poetic. Good to know. Though your posts reflect it nonetheless.😃
      Thanks again for going through my writings and this one too.😘

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